If You Love Someone, How to Make Your Relationship Really Work And Last?

You are finally with someone you really love and feel complete with. But you fear it might go away. You are afraid to lose a beloved one and you want him/her 24/7 near you. You think of ways how to tie him/her to yourself and never let go. So what to do to make it real lasting?

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First of all, it is great you finally think you found someone you want spend your life with. You even realize that the further progress of your love depends on you and so you strive for the better. However, you have to remember that once you are in love, you have to learn certain things: to be open and frank, to give and accept truth and attention, to trust, to be able first to love yourself and then to give and receive love. What does all that mean?

Openness. Contrary to what many believe, love doesn’t last long if one of you is avoiding arguments and explanations. It is best if you have a certain time, a day or even a weekend when you can clear your relationship and say things that bother you both. Do not hold it deep inside you. Some people get hurt, keep silent, but after some weeks, months or even years might burst it all out and leave smashing the doors behind one.

When trying to say what‘s on one‘s mind, try to keep to two rules: first, you both tell what you did not like and then afterwards what you liked. When one is talking, another is listening. Of course, usually listening to your partner you cannot stay calm and you might want to defend or simply back up. However, here is where you must try for your love: you must learn to understand and accept things that are not pleasant or appropriate for your partner.

To be able to accept the unpleasant truth means to be able to listen to the unpleasant and to hold you wish to scream: “This is crap! You are like that yourself!” or likewise... You should learn to listen things out, because after every unpleasant truth, your partner should say things that she/he liked. You must listen to this too and be able to accept it- you need to love yourself too.
Let’s say your partner says: “you have a hilarious sense of humor!” You don’t attempt to deny, instead throw up the joke regarding this. And if your partner says: “I like that you are so hardworking”, but you don’t think you are, you should still accept that and remember. In no ways should you ever depreciate yourself.

Loving yourself is like knowing yourself, your own senses and emotions. Do not confuse it with egoism and egocentrism- you do not let yourself DO what you want. You let yourself FEEL and WANT. Why is that so important? If you are able to love truly yourself and so receive love, you will be able to give it. Try to love yourself truly.

And so, you hear your partner’s words and it is your turn to say what you disliked and what you liked. Like previously, you should talk and your partner should listen. Do not be afraid that your partner will get cocky about it. No, he/she will not. Remember, you heard nice words, too. You both must learn to say bad things and then pleasant things out loud, because if you keep only teaching, punishing and educate- you will lose love.

Do not be afraid to talk, be confident. Believe in what you do even if you don’t expect the best results straight away. Confidence is doing unguaranteed moves, so confide in you in advance. Do silly stuff for your partner, do not measure chances and benefit. Give him/her in advance and you will get it back.

You will think it hundred times:
- It is too frightening to stay open and frank. What he/she is going to think about your feelings to him/her?
- It is hard to accept the unpleasant truth. You will want to resist and shout “no, I’m not like that, look at yourself!”
- You don’t deserve compliments and you think your partner overestimates you.
- It is risky to say unpleasant things: what if your partner will take offence?
- You can’t find courage to say compliments and nice things, you didn’t see that in your family;
- Hard to trust yourself and your partner- you did get burn tons of times!

But in the end, if you love, you will have to deal with that and overcome these thoughts. You will see that love triumphs and gets stronger and stronger.
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